Empowering Women to Regain Control of Life After Narcissistic Abuse
Author: jenniferakramer
I am an art therapist and founder of The Redefined Process; an online program for empowered women who want to regain control of their life after narcissistic abuse, without going to more therapy.
Today, I want you to let loose a little. Even if you don’t feel like it…give this a try…
Entertain the thought that it is indeed possible to get unstuck, and that these intense and overwhelming emotions won’t last forever.
While we’re suffering through narcissistic abuse, our inner sense of playfulness and spontaneity tends to get stifled…we aren’t allowed to let loose, be expressive, and imagine. It simply isn’t safe when we’re in the abuse.
But if you’ve made it out, Overcomer…I encourage you to experiment with this a little…give yourself permission to imagine what life can be like for you, as you step more and more into YOUR ability to play… and simply be YOU.
That’s exactly what your Future Self wants to help you with in today’s Art That Overcomes podcast episode.
Episode 14: Permission to Imagine (SPECIAL HOLIDAY SERIES)
In each of these special holiday episodes, you’ll hear a Message From Your Future Self, along with a suggested art exercise to encourage further reflection.
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I’m back with your second episode in this special holiday series. And, as usual, I’ve got another encouraging message from your Future Self!
So….How do I know what a future version of YOU might say as she looks back at where you are now?…and how she may want to care for you in this moment? The truth is, I can’t know exactly. But I do have a pretty good idea.
I trust my words will resonate because I’ve been in such similar places, feeling similar emotions, experiencing similar events, behaviors, and memories. If you’ve ever talked with other survivors of narcissistic abuse, then you get what I’m saying… It’s often eerie how much we have in common. The details are different, but the abuser’s actions and our responses…. So. Much. Alike. That’s why community is such an integral part of this healing journey.
Now, Let’s continue together. Today we’re talking about an experience we’re all familiar with: When traumatic memories pop up. And, we’re reminding ourselves that we actually have power, control, and a choice.
Episode 13. SPECIAL HOLIDAY SERIES: You Actually DO Have a Choice
In each of these special holiday episodes, you’ll hear a Message From Your Future Self, along with a suggested art exercise to encourage further reflection.
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I know that this holiday season may be hard for you. From reminders of past traumas, to navigating difficult schedules with co-parents, to putting on a fake happy face for family and friends… the holiday season is anything but merry and bright for so many Overcomers of narcissistic abuse.
I can relate.
That’s why I’m bringing you a very intentional series of podcast episodes to help support you through this time of year. I’ll be posting short episodes every Wednesday AND Saturday, from December 7th through January 7th. Then we’ll regroup and get back to the regular format for the new year.
As hard as this season may be for you, it can also be a time of immense growth if you’re willing to take a breath and reflect…if you’re willing to do a little work to connect with all that is good inside of you. And I’m here to help with that.
I hope you’ll join me for this special month of Art That Overcomes episodes.
Episode 12. SPECIAL HOLIDAY SERIES: Find Safety Within Your Body
In each of these special holiday episodes, you’ll hear a Message From Your Future Self, along with a suggested art exercise to encourage further reflection.
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“….It is the opening of the up and out of here, [out] of being bogged down, down into the dumps, into the depths. Depths of despair and uncertainty and un-reality of caring. Caring for my wound. His wound.”
Narcissists don’t know how to truly engage with us emotionally, and that means sexual interactions with them are empty and abusive as well.
Emotional intimacy feels threatening to a narcissist, because it requires vulnerability, transparency, and trust. They can’t present themselves as perfect and in charge when they’re so intimately engaged…so they’ll avoid it at all costs.
And, in turn, sexual interactions with a narcissist are not emotionally intimate. Some narcissists may appear distant, like their mind is in another place, they’re especially short-tempered and judgmental when it comes to physical intimacy, or they avoid it altogether…coming up with excuses not to devote energy to this part of your relationship.
On the other hand, maybe you’ve experienced a narcissist who seemed hyper focused on sexual interactions with you. This might feel fun at first, but becomes demanding and objectifying, and again…devoid of true emotional connection.
At its worst, sexual interaction with a narcissist can become more overtly abusive…with rape and other forms of sexual assault not uncommon.
All this said, I think it’s very normal for survivors of narcissistic abuse to have a tremendous amount of emotions to unpack around their sexuality, femininity, and how to relate to men in various ways…including sexually. Just like all other aspects of our identities that get confused, enmeshed with the narcissist, or flat out lost altogether…this is one area that’s very important to explore.
On today’s episode of Art That Overcomes, I’m sharing a painting I completed a few years ago that really helped me integrate the sexual aspects of my identity into my general sense of Self.
Scroll down to view the art image, related free association writing, and Message From Your Future Self that I discuss in Episode 11: Integrating Sexual Identity After Narcissistic Abuse.
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Episode 11: Integrating Sexual Identity After Abuse
Before I worked on this painting the very first day, I stated an intention for my artmaking time. It was:
“I will explore that ‘ugh’ feeling in my gut. I will learn more about it. I will see what it has to say to me. I will listen to it.”
From my writing after the first day of painting:
“…in there in the middle of it all. Of the chaos and red and orange and green. The slashes, so many slashes and orange lines.
What are the orange parts?
The orange is the heaven in there. It is the opening of the up and out of here, [out] of being bogged down, down into the dumps, into the depths. Depths of despair and uncertainty and un-reality of caring. Caring for my wound. His wound. The dirt…
There’s so much fire! Blue and orange…
What are they?
The helpers. The believers…”
On another day, later in the process, I wrote:
“This feels chaotic. The end of known time. This is unknown realms up in here, up in the air. What will I do with it? I don’t know. I can’t. I can’t anymore today….
The dark part is coming and I like it and I don’t…
What are you teaching me?
TO BECOME…. She took shape like the other one (referring to a previous painting). The orange one found meaning and light through her form — the light. The light that made me feel uneasy.
But I found I had to go through all the orange stuff to get to her. She was more beautiful, initially – in a way. Now oh so much more complex. Ugly in places. Not making sense. But every part is there….all underneath and in between and fighting and together and beautiful and unwarranted and wanting and needing and lusting and calling and coming out alive in the dust, and the ridicule of losses and gains and ins and outs of wanting. I love her…in all of me…
Will she come out?
Sometimes.”
A Message From Your Future Self
“What parts of you feel wrong today?
Where do you feel like you’ve messed up, fallen short, or failed to be enough?
I want you to hold those thoughts and feelings. Hold them tight, for just a few moments. Ball up your fists, imagining that they’re tangible objects you’re grasping in your hands. Press them tight…and count to five…1, 2, 3, 4, 5…
Now…release.
Relax your hands and imagine those failures, mistakes, feelings of guilt and the weight of never measuring up…they all just float away. You watch them…floating…floating….moving farther and farther away into the distance, until they’re only tiny specks. Then…they’re gone completely.
Look down at your empty hands and envision then filling up with light, beauty, love, compassion, confidence, creativity…so much worth.
I’m here with you.
I’m your Future Self, waiting to unfold the fullness of who I am, hour by hour, day by day. It’s in these little moments of letting go, and filling back up, that you move toward me.
It doesn’t *always* have to be complicated.
Sometimes it’s just a matter of being present, and willing to let go.
Today’s episode of Art That Overcomes is out of the box for me, but in celebration of episode TEN (woo-hoo!) I thought it was perfect timing to do something a little special.
Episode 10: My Interview on Think Unbroken Podcast – How ART can HEAL YOU
This week I want to share with you a very special podcast interview I did with Michael Unbroken on the Think Unbroken Podcast. I’ve gotten so much out of Michael’s work, and it was such a privilege to appear on his show.
In this interview, you’ll hear me share more of my backstory than I have anywhere else, and you’ll also learn more about some foundational principles behind art therapy. I know that Michael likes to go deep with his guests, so I didn’t hold anything back. I really hope you get a lot out of it!
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“…what if the trial you want me to overcome is my fear of truly being me…my creative self…totally putting myself out there for all to see? What if my flaw is not in failing to be practical enough, but in failing to JUMP…fully into the waves, trusting your love will catch me there. There’s love beneath the waves.”
I’m sharing with you in real time today, Overcomer.
I’m not sitting up high on a pedestal of self-actualization, condescending to share my knowledge with you. I am a survivor…an Overcomer…of narcissistic abuse, still very much on this journey of healing and redefining my identity.
I’m here to share some tools and skills with you that I’ve learned along the way, and to show you how I am STILL using them to become more and more of who I am meant to be.
On today’s episode of Art That Overcomes, I’m getting super vulnerable. I invite you to hear what aspects of my identity I’m currently struggling with the most. I’m feeling tension between two different parts of my Self, and still wrestling through it.
And as always, it’s my art and writing process that is helping me uncover what I need along the way.
I hope you’ll listen in…
Scroll down to view the art image, related free association writing, and Message From Your Future Self that I discuss in Episode 9: Who am I, anyway?.
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“It’s flowing, it’s bursting and bulging. It’s open.
Is it? Is it open?
Its’ open through the backside. I can see through it. Like how my other painting was going, flowing, through the ocean, through the wall. This is moving THROUGH – through me. Coming, reaching, into the unknown. Into you (God)- my divine source of all that’s REAL, not surreal.
You are the real deal, the coming and going. You make it happen. I have to connect, here in the ether, here in this space in between the chaos of thoughts and mind, beyond the paper. You’re there in the inside, the deep trenches of it. You MOVE. And I want to swim in you. To fully grasp this picture I have – this sense of me in you, the version of me (the realest, truest version) that is inside you and you inside me. Like in all the recesses of that circle.
I want to go through it and dive right in and tuck my head, my face, right inside. To never come out to see the “light” of day – the everything else that’s around and distracting and pulling me out. I want you. I trust YOU.
Can I trust you?
Can you? What has time shown?
Yes. A resounding yes. The truest most consistent thing is you. You and me, me and you. My artist self is all in you.
What is the yellow?
You (God), and my muddy circle is diving in to greet you and live in you and be”
Writing from Day 2:
“You look like a flower. Are you a flower?
I’m loving and warm and thick and juicy. Tactile. Full. rough and smooth. Little divots and bumps and whole places and empty spots.
I say…
I’m drawn to that shape in the middle(ish). Like it’s a little piece that I can grab and tear. Put one finger along the edge and rip. Rip this circle open. DIVE IN. Put my face and chest through that circle-flower-shape and feel the warmth of that yellow background and feel fully alive.
It’s like that thickness of the oil pastel on the surface is beautiful and smudgy and luscious and I like it, but it feels like it’s so…on the surface. It’s the top coat, the finished part, the presentable piece.
The respectable part?
I don’t know. The easy part, maybe. Pretty and easy.
What’s back there once you go through, rip through?
Just so much more, and I’m not sure yet but it feels right. It feels open and alive and I’ll figure it out. I’ll keep stepping into it. But I know it’s something I stand firm in – a place I stand firm in, no matter what is outside, no matter what job, what other circumstances, what other people or influences. It’s still strong. I’m still strong in this fullness of who I am.”
A Message From Your Future Self
“This journey can be so confusing. So frustrating. So full of obstacles.
You long to speed things up…to jump through a few months or years of this pain and adjustment and doubt…
You wish you could leap to where I am now; so much more trusting and self-assured in the future.
I want to remind you, today…
You are in exactly the right place, time, and circumstance. All the strength and power and knowledge and skill that you need to reach me is within you now. And you ARE uncovering it…one small piece at a time.
Rather than envisioning this process of Becoming as a building of bricks one on top of another…a system of adding and adding more and more…
Consider this image:
You are a painting, a piece of art created by so many others.
One layer from your mother…your father. Another from your siblings. A layer from your work, and schooling. One thick and muddy layer from the narcissist. And a heaping smear of confusion on top.
There’s nothing that you, or anyone else, needs to add here.
This is an uncovering.
It’s time to peel back the layers of who they created you to be. It’s time to gently, with caring attention, tend to YOU…the real and true You that lies beneath.”
“…I’m being held back- from exploring, traveling, from joy! from being fully comfortable in my own skin.”
What happens when we feel restricted and trapped by abusive individuals, BUT we take a risk and trust ourselves for a change?
Everything, that’s what.
Everything in our life starts to shift from that point…for the better.
On today’s episode of Art That Overcomes I’m excited and honored to share an insightful piece of art and writing from Alex, one of my group coaching clients.
She took a chance on herself and did the very hard work of making time and space to explore all parts of herself…and all the ways the angry and difficult parts mixed with the good and joyful parts…ALL of it.
I can’t wait for you to hear from her.
In addition to her writing in response to the artwork, I’ll be sharing a testimonial of her reflections after completing The Redefined Process. Her growth and insight is inspiring. Seriously. I wouldn’t skip this episode.
Scroll down to view the art image, related free association writing, and Message From Your Future Self that I discuss in Episode 8: From Trapped to Transformed.
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“…I’m being held back- from exploring, traveling, from joy! from being fully comfortable in my own skin. I do feel trapped in that box – the BIG, funny, ME emotions and parts that just want to BE OKAY, and the bridge shows some of that experimenting, and the destination is just fully ok to be ALEX, planted by streams of living water, sprawled out on the grass, safe, me. There’s no more fear of doing something wrong (the blue spirals on the left), it’s like a release of the intensity, everything isn’t so heightened and eggshell-like. I’m no longer sinking on the bottom (on the left), but I’m sprawled out, fully Alex, no judgment, just peace.”
She imagines if the drawing could talk, and asks…
“What do you need?
To not be afraid.
How do you feel?
I feel hesitant. And like I need help getting there.
Who are you?
I’m a scared little girl who wants to be free and ALIVE and me again.”
A Message From Your Future Self
“I invite you to imagine with me, today…
Envision with me, now… You are lying, or seated, in a beautiful open field. The grass is green and the air is brisk. You are fully at peace. Fully safe here. Alive and free to feel the breeze on your skin, and the warmth of the sun on your face.
You look up at the sky. It’s bright blue and seems to go on forever. Massive, white, fluffy clouds slowly glide by…slipping over the sun for a moment…then moving on to reveal its rays again.
‘What if I were like the clouds?’, you ponder… ‘What if I could glide and shift through time and space, without all the bumps and scrapes and hardships along the way?’
As you continue to observe the clouds, you also turn your attention to the ground beneath you. It’s so firm, solid, and secure. You are stable here…supported.
My question for you:
What if both can be true?
What if you can float along, full of beauty and grace like the clouds…but also sit firm and grounded on the reality of the hard earth beneath you?
What if your most beautiful existence requires both…the tension between the two?
I invite you to trust. Move forward knowing that the hard work and struggles are forming you just as much as the moments of ease. It’s all helping you move closer to this future version of you… the You that you long to be .
Have you ever felt this way, Overcomer? Like there’s something you long to move past, get over, or let go of….and you just can’t seem to do it. It doesn’t make sense. It’s confusing. It feels like you’re working against yourself, even though you don’t want to be.
Not only have I been there in the past, but I honestly think it’s an ongoing part of the human condition. It’s something we have to constantly be aware of and address.
The good news….
I believe it does get easier once we are aware of this push-pull dynamic within ourselves, and once we’ve gotten some practice addressing it. But you’ve gotta be willing to get honest with yourself.
If you’re fed up with feeling stuck, then today’s episode of Art That Overcomes is for you.
Scroll down to view the art image, related free association writing, and Message From Your Future Self that I discuss in Episode 7: What’s really keeping you stuck.
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Art That Overcomes Podcast, Episode 7: What’s really keeping you stuck.
“It’s bulging out, pushing in. And I’m pushing back, keeping all of its calmness and blessings at bay. That anxiety and pain and uncertainty and dread and depression and fatigue and loneliness and not enough-ness and this-will-always-be-hard and I cannot be loved… All of that is stored up in my body, in my chest and in my gut and it’s so familiar that I coddle it and take such good care of it like a baby in my arms, like something sweet and powerful and good that I must protect, at all costs, like I would be lost without it. I HOLD it, so TIGHT… I long to let it go and I don’t know how. I’ve been treating myself like ‘I’ve grown and learned and changed and now I’ll stay comfy for a while.’ But [God], you want me to move. You see me moving and am moving me. You have the power but you call me to act, to reach out to you. What does this feel like? The reaching out? It’s starting to feel like home. I can see it from here. It can be my new familiar safe place. Can I let my guard down? Should I? With you [God] I can. It’s you and me, but that does not have to exclude another. As I open myself up to you, lay down fear, put away what is familiar, step away from it, and fasten, fix, focus my eyes and actions and affections and satisfaction and contentment and fulfillment and joy on you, then I can move towards others…”
A Message From Your Future Self
“We hold so many things back, don’t we?
Sometimes this makes sense, for sure. We’ve been hurt, abused, and betrayed. Not every person, and not every circumstance deserves our full self. Not everyone is worthy of the time, energy, and trust that it takes to present ourselves fully, honest and uncensored.
But what about the things you hold back from me….from yourself?
Do you realize that the fullest, most beautiful and vulnerable parts of You are safe here? Do you understand that I’m on the other side of this and I see now…clearly?
I see you…in full.
And I know, now…those parts you hold back…those feelings that are hardest to face…those words you hesitate to say…and the thoughts you won’t release…that’s all that holds you here.
You feel stuck in a loop of thoughts, beliefs, and emotions that weigh you down.
But it’s actually the release that you fear most.
Deep down, I remember how we feared letting go……………
How the unknown felt so scary… But now I see. I SEE.
I see how once you were willing to take one little step after another…once you were willing to release…just a bit…to pry even one finger off the familiar feelings you clench so tightly…
…once you started… You couldn’t be stopped.
Once You decided to be honest with yourself, you soared.
“…I am me and that’s ALL I will ever be. And all I need. ME- she’s protected, she’s cared for, she’s whole.”
It all comes back to identity. Every single time.
I’ve found that the root cause of our feeling of stuck-ness in life, lack of confidence, self doubt, you name it… those lingering symptoms from the trauma of narcissistic abuse…they hang around because we’ve lost our connection to our identity.
We don’t know who we are anymore. Our sense of self was so enmeshed with the abuser that we didn’t know where they ended and we began. Breaking out of that pattern and boldly stepping into the uncharted waters of Self…the new and unexplored You…is very hard, and very scary at times.
In this episode of Art That Overcomes, we’ll be diving into some ways of reconnecting with and redefining identity. We are reminding ourselves: I am whole. Your true sense of self isn’t lost somewhere outside of you. It’s all there, within you now. It’s time to tap into it.
Scroll down to view the art images, related free association writing, and Message From Your Future Self that I discuss in Episode 6: I am Whole.
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“…AmI the same girl I was then? Yes, all the feelings and swirlings, *but* now lived out, now expressed, now understanding that they can stretch so much farther and that is so unknown and scary and WTF is happening? My body doesn’t know what to do. My very nervous system wants to shut down. This feels so unsafe and unknown – my body is firing the battle cry, the warning – this is really fight/flight now. But actually I’m fawning, stopping, immobilized. The paths in the drawing, the black one, where does it lead? To the orange stickers (tape). Do they stop there or continue? They will go down the table and out through the door and spread like a web, but it feels bad… Is the black bad? What is it? …it’s good to recognize it before it overtakes again. It’s been running the show, Jennifer. It’s reaching its peak and then it will fade and won’t be so intense, brilliant and strong. But right now it’s trying to rear its ugly head and find a way out and that way is through YOU. It has to come out and is fighting through your pores and your mask and needs liberation… It will never come to the forefront of the show because I’m not going to let it (we will not let it) but you have to be willing to *face* it, not only acknowledging… How does the blue survive? By turning to herself, asking herself what is real and by fighting for that, all the time, every day, every month of every minute of the year and forever. Because I am me and that’s ALL I will ever be. And all I need. ME- she’s protected, she’s cared for, she’s whole.”
A Message From Your Future Self
“I am whole. I am full. I am like a circle that is open and flowing and full to the brim…with ME. I am not masking my true self…but always open. Always asking. Always comforting. Always ready to love.
I am not perfect. I spill out…sometimes.
But I trust.
I trust my shape. I trust my colors. I trust my process.
I trust Me. I trust my ability to return back to myself when things start to shift.
I know you don’t always feel this grounded…this safe, within yourself.
Today I am here to remind you that this hard work of getting up, trying again, trusting again, living again…this work of turning back toward You…
That is what’s building our feeling of Wholeness. Our sense of Safety. Our feelings of Flow and Ease.
You ARE already Whole. You ARE already complete. You ARE your True Self.
The feelings, though…that’s the tricky part. You don’t always feel your wholeness. You waver in your awareness of these truths.
But they are there, within you.
I ask you to take one step toward me now…toward the knowing that what you seek is already within you.
Take a deep belly breath. Settle. With hand on your heart, say with me: “I am Whole.”
The best part about escaping narcissistic abuse is that we are finally free to make our own choices!
This can feel daunting at times (trust me, I know the struggle is real), but ultimately it’s the best thing ever.
One of the places I’ve found the greatest sense of freedom on my healing journey is within the creative process. It’s a place to play, explore, discover, learn, and test the waters of what it feels like to truly embrace all my emotions…the good, the bad, the ugly…it’s all come out in my artmaking practice, for sure. And…it’s OKAY. This is a no-judgment zone. All thoughts, feelings, and expressions welcome.
Last week on the Art That Overcomes podcast, I went in-depth sharing with you the Why of this process that I teach. And on today’s episode, I’m going to share a super practical art exercise that you can do right away….it’s the How. And it’s the foundation of this Redefined Process that I’m modeling for you on the podcast.
Tune in to hear my directions for creating a Feelings Scribble Drawing. The audio for this one was actually taken right out of a free mini-course that’s in my Redefined app, and I think it’s the best, most concise version of this directive that I have.
Scroll down to view the image of an example drawing I share in the original video, along with this week’s Message From Your Future Self from Episode 5: How to do this art process.
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The image above shows the example Feelings Scribble Drawing that I talk about in today’s episode. The format is different for this one, so there’s no responsive writing to share. I encourage you to follow the directions to create your own drawing and writing this week!
A Message From Your Future Self
“Who is in charge of your life today? Who’s calling the shots?
It’s not a trick question, but there’s not always an easy answer.
Let’s really think about it now.
Who’s in charge?
I remember all that time you spent feeling powerless and resigned to letting the narcissist take the lead. At first it was pretty subconscious (you didn’t realize how much of your power you’d surrendered).
But then…
Somewhere along the way, it became a choice. You feared that if you moved too much, shifting this way and that, veering off the abuser’s chosen course, that you’d rock the boat. You’d capsize the relationship. Everything would be lost. And it would be all your fault.
But then…
Somewhere along the way, you made a new choice. You didn’t just rock the boat… You jumped clear out of it! The surrounding waters were dark and murky, and some of the stain remains. But I’m so glad you jumped. I’m so proud that you chose to move on with YOUR life, so that one day you’ll get to me…here where I stand in so much power, assurance, and trust in this process.
Are YOU proud of yourself, today?
Do you realize that you control who’s in charge? I hope you choose YOU today. I hope you choose us. I hope you choose to keep taking leaps, no matter the risk…
Because, it’s those powerful actions that teach you (teach us) that YOU are really in charge now.
Jennifer Kramer Art Therapy 