24. What new thing is being birthed in you now?

“Have you ever read the children’s book, Alexander and the Terrible, Horrible, No Good, Very Bad Day? I love this book because I think all of us can relate to Alexander. It seems that nothing is going right for him, and he can only see his circumstances through a negative lens, where he’s the victim to everyone and everything. 

He repeatedly tells his friends, family, and teachers that he’s having a terrible, horrible, no good, very bad day, and he thinks he’ll move to Australia. I guess he figures that’s far enough away that none of his problems will follow him there. Then, at the very end of his day, he tell us, “My mother says some days are like that, even in Australia.” 

Today, I am not exactly having an Alexander type of day, but I am feeling really down. I honestly feel depressed. And I want to share with you how I’m processing those emotions…and it does not involve moving to the other side of the world.”

“It’s crazy…Even after going through this process of spontaneous artmaking and responsive writing SO MANY times over the years, it never ceases to amaze me how the perfect message always finds a way to emerge from my subconscious brain.”

From my writing in response to the image:

“You’ve done it so many times before. You’ve come out and flourished and today is no different but sit there now and hold her in the pink safe place. It is safe there, you know? It’s safe to sit and feel and come out a little at a time. Like pregnancy, gestation, giving birth. She comes out SO ALIVE. Every time.”

LISTEN to Art That Overcomes podcast, Episode 24. What new thing is being birthed in you now?

22. The Power of Art as a Visual Record

“Something I love about being an artist and writer is that the work I create continues to exist long after I create it (whether in digital or physical form) and I can access it and reflect on it weeks, months, and years later. In this sense, it kind of has a life all its own. As I said…it exists. It is its own thing. I’ve supplied the thoughts, words, colors, emotions, and actions to make it come to life. I’ve taken the thoughts, words, colors, emotions and actions out of my body and brain and put them onto another surface, or into my computer hard drive or Google doc. Then…I let them exist…and, I choose when and how I interact with them.”

On today’s episode of the  Art That Overcomes podcast, I’m reflecting on the past, staying grounded in the present, and looking toward the future. Listen in as I share how my art process is helping me do all three.

Above you can view the art images that I discuss in Episode 22: The Power of Art as a Visual Record.

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If you like it, give it a 5 star rating and review so that other Overcomers can find it too (all those listens and reviews bump it up in the algorithm).

NEW Redefined Community!

I’ve unlocked the Community chat feature for all Redefined app users, whether you’re a paying monthly Redefined Member, or you’re taking advantage of the FREE mini-courses I have available.

Check out the different chat threads, including one specifically dedicated to the Art That Overcomes podcast!

To access Redefined, search for ‘Redefined – by Jennifer Kramer’ in your app store, or go here for the website version: https://redefined-by-jenniferkramer.passion.io/

Ready to go deeper?

CLICK HERE to learn about the monthly Redefined Membership, which includes my 10-week Challenge, The Redefined Process.

LIMITED TIME OFFER– Get a FREE Redefined t-shirt (see photo below) when you join the monthly membership, even if just for one month. It’s my gift to you! An empowering reminder of who you really are, Overcomer!

I’ll see you over in the community chat!

❤️Jennifer

21. Goodbye, Fear…the New Me is Here! + ANNOUNCEMENT

Welcome back, Overcomer! I hope this special podcast series has helped you navigate the holiday season with increased focus, calm, and vision for the future.

And I realize that this next season will not be without its own challenges. We all need community to support us…and, most importantly…it has to be the *right* community….other women who really get it. That’s why I’ve made some very intentional changes to my Redefined coaching app to help you continue into this new year without losing sight of that Future You that you’ve been envisioning. 

Before I let you in on all those details, I want to acknowledge that moving forward into new phases of healing is often really filled with fear. And we can choose to let that fear hold us back, or we can choose to let it catapult us forward. 

Today’s message from your future self is all about tackling our fear of the unknown territory that lies ahead on this healing journey from narcissistic abuse.

Tune in to today’s episode of the Art That Overcomes podcast to hear this message.

Episode 21:  Goodbye, Fear…the New Me is Here! + ANNOUNCEMENT

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In each of these special holiday episodes, you’ll hear a Message From Your Future Self, along with a suggested art exercise to encourage further reflection.

Like what you hear? Give Art That Overcomes a 5 star rating and review so that other Overcomers can find it too (all those listens and reviews bump it up in the algorithm).

ANNOUNCEMENT – Here’s what’s NEW at Redefined!

I’ve unlocked a brand new feature for ALL app users, whether you’re a paying, monthly Redefined Member, or you’re taking advantage of the FREE mini-courses I have available…

There is now a separate Community chat channel, just for you! I had previously reserved the community chat feature for members only, but now I’ve created a second community for those of you who haven’t opted into paid membership yet.

If you’re already a member, I’ve made some changes to your private Community channel as well, so you can go ahead and check that out too! 

To access Redefined, search for ‘Redefined – by Jennifer Kramer’ in your app store, or go here for the website version: https://redefined-by-jenniferkramer.passion.io/


Ready to go deeper?

CLICK HERE to learn about the monthly Redefined Membership, which includes my 10-week Challenge, The Redefined Process.


LIMITED TIME OFFER – Get a FREE Redefined t-shirt (see photo above) when you join the monthly membership, even if just for one month. It’s my gift to you! An empowering reminder of who you really are, Overcomer!

I’ll see you over in the community chat!

❤️Jennifer

18. Loneliness (SPECIAL HOLIDAY SERIES)

Welcome back! Today we’re diving into the topic of loneliness.

The feeling of Loneliness is one of the heaviest burdens that survivors of narcissistic abuse must bear, especially around the holidays. Isn’t it bizarre how you can (at times) miss shared moments and family meals with a person who was also so manipulative, abusive, and unfaithful? 

It’s strange, for sure. But…it’s normal. 

You’re a good and kind person, who had real feelings for them. You invested so much in the relationship. And there really were some good times. Those memories are now clouded by your awareness of the gaslighting and betrayal…but still… the feelings are mixed. 

Your Future Self is now on the other side of this. She has bravely allowed herself to feel her loneliness, sadness and grief. She feels secure and confident both as a single woman, and in new relationships. She does not waver. 

Let’s hear from her now, on today’s Art That Overcomes podcast episode.


Episode 18: Loneliness (SPECIAL HOLIDAY SERIES)

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In each of these special holiday episodes, you’ll hear a Message From Your Future Self, along with a suggested art exercise to encourage further reflection.

Like what you hear? Give Art That Overcomes a 5 star rating and review so that other Overcomers can find it too (all those listens and reviews bump it up in the algorithm).

We are a community of Overcomers!

Looking to connect with other women who get itClick here to join my FREE Facebook Group, Women Overcoming Narcissistic Abuse. It’s a private community designed just for you.

Ready to go deeper?

CLICK HERE to learn about the monthly Redefined Membership, which includes my 10-week Challenge, The Redefined Process.

❤️Jennifer

17. You Deserve a Quiet Moment (SPECIAL HOLIDAY SERIES)

Whether you find yourself alone today, or amid the hustle and bustle of many holiday activities, it is likely hard to settle your mind into a truly centered, quiet moment within. It takes a little work to make this happen, and today I challenge you to put in that work. Remember, it’s YOU who’s leading the way, getting yourself to where you want to be in life. 

Let’s hear what your Future Self wants you to know about the importance of taking this quiet moment…

A Message From Your Future Self

“I am here now. I am HERE. Right now. Within you…in your spirit, your heart, your breath. All the strength and power and confidence and ease that you hope for in the future……… All of this (and more) exists in you now, in this moment. 

I am here now. 

You created me. 
You designed me. 
You rose from the ashes of abuse and pain and a life of…”



Tune in to today’s episode of Art That Overcomes to hear more…


Episode 17: You Deserve a Quiet Moment (SPECIAL HOLIDAY SERIES)

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In each of these special holiday episodes, you’ll hear a Message From Your Future Self, along with a suggested art exercise to encourage further reflection.

Like what you hear? Give Art That Overcomes a 5 star rating and review so that other Overcomers can find it too (all those listens and reviews bump it up in the algorithm).

We are a community of Overcomers!

Looking to connect with other women who get itClick here to join my FREE Facebook Group, Women Overcoming Narcissistic Abuse. It’s a private community designed just for you.

Ready to go deeper?

CLICK HERE to learn about the monthly Redefined Membership, which includes my 10-week Challenge, The Redefined Process.

❤️Jennifer

16. You’re Allowed to Start Anew (SPECIAL HOLIDAY SERIES)

I hope you were able to tap into a little bit of your power, strength and confidence as you heard the message from your future self in the last episode of Art That Overcomes podcast. Today we’re going to build on this topic, as we consider how much control you have, even when it doesn’t feel like you have it. 

We are going to talk about…

New Traditions

Part of the fallout of separation and divorce is the loss of family traditions. If you and your partner were together for any length of time, and especially if you share children, then you developed many daily rhythms of life unique to your family, as well as favorite ways of celebrating each holiday.

Whether those traditions were big or small, they were all yours. And now that your family structure and dynamics are different, transitioning into new rhythms and traditions can be a challenge. Even if you want to leave the old stuff behind because it’s now tainted with the flavor of abuse and manipulation, starting anew can feel daunting. And I think a big part of why it feels this way is that after surviving narcissistic abuse, our brains often try to keep us stuck in victim-mode and we aren’t always aware of how much control we actually have now.

It takes some time and effort to change our thinking and enjoy stepping into new, open-ended adventures. Your Future Self is already there, fully confident and in control. Let her voice be your guide…

Listen in to hear what your Future Self has to tell you today….


Episode 16: You’re Allowed to Start Anew (SPECIAL HOLIDAY SERIES)

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In each of these special holiday episodes, you’ll hear a Message From Your Future Self, along with a suggested art exercise to encourage further reflection.

Like what you hear? Give Art That Overcomes a 5 star rating and review so that other Overcomers can find it too (all those listens and reviews bump it up in the algorithm).

We are a community of Overcomers!

Looking to connect with other women who get itClick here to join my FREE Facebook Group, Women Overcoming Narcissistic Abuse. It’s a private community designed just for you.

Ready to go deeper?

CLICK HERE to learn about the monthly Redefined Membership, which includes my 10-week Challenge, The Redefined Process.

❤️Jennifer

15. Speaking YOUR Truth (SPECIAL HOLIDAY SERIES)

Welcome back to this special Art That Overcomes podcast series, designed to help you through this holiday season. I know you may be navigating difficult family and co-parenting relationships, grief & loss, loneliness, and trauma triggers galore. If you missed the last few episodes, I encourage you to go back and listen.

Today, let’s talk about the feeling that you have to be fake for the sake of others….

I think one of the most difficult things for survivors of narcissistic abuse to navigate is feeling like we must continue to silence our voice, even once we’re free from the abuse. There’s often pressure to put on a fake happy face for others, especially around the holidays. We want to keep the peace and make everyone else more comfortable, and we know that they just want to believe the lie that we’re completely okay. 

But is it always necessary to worry about others before ourselves in this way?

I would argue that it’s not. 

Now, this is certainly a complicated issue. When it comes to children, for example, we don’t want to pull them into all of the drama going on in our hearts. 

But is there a place for a little bit of honesty mixed with the holiday ‘cheer’? 

Listen in to hear what your Future Self has to tell you today….


Episode 15: Speaking YOUR Truth (SPECIAL HOLIDAY SERIES)

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In each of these special holiday episodes, you’ll hear a Message From Your Future Self, along with a suggested art exercise to encourage further reflection.

Like what you hear? Give Art That Overcomes a 5 star rating and review so that other Overcomers can find it too (all those listens and reviews bump it up in the algorithm).

We are a community of Overcomers!

Looking to connect with other women who get itClick here to join my FREE Facebook Group, Women Overcoming Narcissistic Abuse. It’s a private community designed just for you.

Ready to go deeper?

CLICK HERE to learn about the monthly Redefined Membership, which includes my 10-week Challenge, The Redefined Process.

❤️Jennifer

14. Permission to Imagine (SPECIAL HOLIDAY SERIES)

Today, I want you to let loose a little. Even if you don’t feel like it…give this a try…

Entertain the thought that it is indeed possible to get unstuck, and that these intense and overwhelming emotions won’t last forever. 

While we’re suffering through narcissistic abuse, our inner sense of playfulness and spontaneity tends to get stifled…we aren’t allowed to let loose, be expressive, and imagine. It simply isn’t safe when we’re in the abuse. 

But if you’ve made it out, Overcomer…I encourage you to experiment with this a little…give yourself permission to imagine what life can be like for you, as you step more and more into YOUR ability to play… and simply be YOU.

That’s exactly what your Future Self wants to help you with in today’s Art That Overcomes podcast episode.


Episode 14: Permission to Imagine (SPECIAL HOLIDAY SERIES)

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In each of these special holiday episodes, you’ll hear a Message From Your Future Self, along with a suggested art exercise to encourage further reflection.

Like what you hear? Give Art That Overcomes a 5 star rating and review so that other Overcomers can find it too (all those listens and reviews bump it up in the algorithm).

We are a community of Overcomers!

Looking to connect with other women who get itClick here to join my FREE Facebook Group, Women Overcoming Narcissistic Abuse. It’s a private community designed just for you.

Ready to go deeper?

CLICK HERE to learn about the monthly Redefined Membership, which includes my 10-week Challenge, The Redefined Process.

❤️Jennifer

13. SPECIAL HOLIDAY SERIES: You Actually DO Have a Choice

I’m back with your second episode in this special holiday series. And, as usual, I’ve got another encouraging message from your Future Self!

So….How do I know what a future version of YOU might say as she looks back at where you are now?…and how she may want to care for you in this moment? The truth is, I can’t know exactly. But I do have a pretty good idea.

I trust my words will resonate because I’ve been in such similar places, feeling similar emotions, experiencing similar events, behaviors, and memories. If you’ve ever talked with other survivors of narcissistic abuse, then you get what I’m saying… It’s often eerie how much we have in common. The details are different, but the abuser’s actions and our responses…. So. Much. Alike. That’s why community is such an integral part of this healing journey.

Now, Let’s continue together. Today we’re talking about an experience we’re all familiar with: When traumatic memories pop up. And, we’re reminding ourselves that we actually have power, control, and a choice.



Episode 13. SPECIAL HOLIDAY SERIES: You Actually DO Have a Choice

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In each of these special holiday episodes, you’ll hear a Message From Your Future Self, along with a suggested art exercise to encourage further reflection.

Like what you hear? Give Art That Overcomes a 5 star rating and review so that other Overcomers can find it too (all those listens and reviews bump it up in the algorithm).

We are a community of Overcomers!

Looking to connect with other women who get itClick here to join my FREE Facebook Group, Women Overcoming Narcissistic Abuse. It’s a private community designed just for you.

Ready to go deeper?

CLICK HERE to learn about the monthly Redefined Membership, which includes my 10-week Challenge, The Redefined Process.

❤️Jennifer

12. SPECIAL HOLIDAY SERIES: Find Safety Within Your Body

I know that this holiday season may be hard for you. From reminders of past traumas, to navigating difficult schedules with co-parents, to putting on a fake happy face for family and friends… the holiday season is anything but merry and bright for so many Overcomers of narcissistic abuse.

I can relate.

That’s why I’m bringing you a very intentional series of podcast episodes to help support you through this time of year. I’ll be posting short episodes every Wednesday AND Saturday, from December 7th through January 7th. Then we’ll regroup and get back to the regular format for the new year.

As hard as this season may be for you, it can also be a time of immense growth if you’re willing to take a breath and reflect…if you’re willing to do a little work to connect with all that is good inside of you. And I’m here to help with that.

I hope you’ll join me for this special month of Art That Overcomes episodes.


Episode 12. SPECIAL HOLIDAY SERIES: Find Safety Within Your Body


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In each of these special holiday episodes, you’ll hear a Message From Your Future Self, along with a suggested art exercise to encourage further reflection.

Like what you hear? Give Art That Overcomes a 5 star rating and review so that other Overcomers can find it too (all those listens and reviews bump it up in the algorithm).

We are a community of Overcomers!

Looking to connect with other women who get itClick here to join my FREE Facebook Group, Women Overcoming Narcissistic Abuse. It’s a private community designed just for you.

Ready to go deeper?

CLICK HERE to learn about the monthly Redefined Membership, which includes my 10-week Challenge, The Redefined Process.

❤️Jennifer